It’s time to start talking Christmas. We probably should have started talking about this a few months ago but here we are. By now, I hope your Christmas shopping is well underway.
I’ve made good progress on everyone – everyone that is, but the littles. On one hand, they are super easy to buy for but on the other hand, what on earth could a two and one year-old possibly need? If there was a year where we could probably get away with very small gifts, this might be the one.
Nonetheless, buying Christmas gifts for grandchildren is different than for your own children. It seems that there might be some sensitivities surrounding it. For example, grandpa found a “kitchen” that he thought would be a great gift for the littles. It was huge! It was expensive. I said absolutely not!
I feel like it’s not our responsibility or our place to outdo the parents – which is an easy thing to do when the parents are just starting out and have a mountain in student loans.
I just might have some backup on this philosophy. Here’s what I read over at Grandparents.com:
From the moment Dorothea Hover-Kramer’s oldest grandson asked her for a bike, she dreamed of Christmas morning — and the look on the boy’s face when he’d find the shiny two-wheeler under the tree. Still, she says, “it was kind of a big present, so I thought I’d run it by my daughter [the boy’s mother].” Her daydream was quickly dashed. “My daughter said, ‘No, we’ll get him the bike.’ I said, ‘He asked me for it,'” says Hover-Kramer.
Hover-Kramer was disappointed, but she backed off. “As a grandparent, I’ve learned to be the peacemaker and accommodator,” she says. Her daughter and son-in-law bought the bike while she chipped in for the accessories, including a helmet and a lock.
I totally understand this scenario. I would definitely be the one wanting to buy the new bike. But really – is it my place? I think it’s good to ask permission to buy such a gift.
Here are some other ways gift giving can go – again from Grandparents.com:
- They ask you to buy a big gift, but you can’t afford it
- They demand you run your gift ideas by them
- They forbid you from buying certain toys
- They ask you to go easy, but you had big plans
Do any of those sound familiar? I haven’t experienced this yet but with 5 children, their spouses, and any number of grandchildren, I’m anticipating every one of those scenarios at some point!
So grandmas tread carefully. It is Christmas but take it easy. Let mom and dad be the hero – unless they ask you to step in.
We’ll be keeping it simple this year. Maybe a few books and some Hot Wheels cars. I am working on a fun project for them but shhhhh… it’s a secret. Something from my own children’s childhood that I think they might enjoy. This might be the only year I can get away with a sentimental gift as opposed to a gift from Target.
Grandmas – tell me what you think. Is it tricky for you?