Do you remember Teary Goodbyes from just over a year ago? When I blogged about the littles moving away to their new home? That was such a hard day for me. I sobbed. I knew they would be coming back in a year but a year seemed like a lifetime.
Well, it wasn’t a lifetime and they did come back.
For this week’s post I asked Go Grandma followers where they would take their littles if they could take them anywhere in the world. The response was wonderfully overwhelming! THANK YOU!! I loved hearing about all of the places that hold warm spots in the hearts of so many grandmas. Here are some of the places they’d like to go:
Paula J. (Canada) – New Zealand – The people were so loving and there’s so much to do outside every day. It’s beautiful and green.
Mindi (Colorado) – Puerto Vallarta – to just chill! No one uses their phone there!!
Andrea G., (Minnesota) – On a cruise with the kids and grandkids.
From a trip to Hawaii to a picnic in a park – our Go Grandmas are adventurous but I’m guessing they just really want to show their littles the places they love and that bring back fond memories for them.
I got to do exactly that this weekend! As you know, I’ve been missing my littles like CRAZY!! since they moved away. I finally got an opportunity to go visit them and, given the location of their new home, we decided to make it a double adventure and go back to a few places that hold warm places in my heart.
We spent 10 years in the Southwestern Ontario, Canada area when our children were young and have so many fond memories. I wanted to share some of the memories with my two daughters-in-law who are always up for a Grandma Adventure (bless their hearts)!
Our first stop was a historical one in a little town outside of Rochester, New York. We visited some religiously significant sites for us and then topped the evening off with an amazing outdoor performance – Hill Cumorah Pageant. So many memories of taking our young boys to this area. It was pretty nice to be back!
In London we stayed with old friends who were always so good to our little family. It was nice to sit around, play games, and just visit. It was probably pretty boring for my daughters-in-law but they were good sports about it! They loved hearing stories about their husbands and seeing the places we lived and schools they went to.
Where would you take your littles on a Go Grandma Adventure?
We got some great advice this week on our topic – Making the Most of a Quick Visit. Sometimes our grandchildren just live too darn far away so when we get to see them, we need to make it count! Here’s what some of our followers had to say about that:
Lorri S, CANADA – My trips to Ottawa are often for a long weekend only which means ALL granny time! Sometimes the only thing we do is walk to the park, play Play Dough, snack, nap and REPEAT. It’s GLORIOUS.
Perfect! Sounds like when Lorri visits her littles, she plans on doing nothing else but play.
Martha L., MINNESOTA – Soak it all in. Love them until you and/or they drop, sleep and repeat.
I think Lorri and Martha are definitely my kind of grandma. Play hard and nap harder!
Pauline has some great advice on being “present” with your littles:
Pauline V., MINNESOTA – Just listen, listen, listen. They solve so many dilemmas on their own. I picked up my 3 1/2 year old grandson from daycare a few weeks ago. I asked if he wanted to come to my house or go home. He said he would like to go to Disney World and see Jurassic Park again. After some thought he responded with “oh, wait a minute – I think they’re closed today.” So instead we enjoyed his favorite park and I didn’t have to disappoint him.
That is so adorable!
I also asked grandmas what their thoughts were on bringing gifts when they visit their littles. I kind of thought the response would be mixed. Like maybe you can overdo it with gifts or maybe the moms found the gifts to overwhelming BUT – I was completely wrong!
Claudia J., MINNESOTA – Gifts are always a good idea!
Andrea G., MINNESOTA – Why not? I give gifts because it makes me happy.
Sandy C., CANADA – Gifts for sure. I take something every now and then even if it’s small like sidewalk chalk.
Martha L., MINNESOTA – Of course gifts! That’s part of the fun of being a grandma. Spoil them!
Well, gifts it is then.
Do you have any more tips for Making the Most of a Quick Visit?
Two weeks ago, I took my daughter-in-law and grandsons to the airport to say goodbye. They were moving to Ohio – from Minnesota where I live. It was pretty much the saddest day I’ve had in a very long time. I cried big, ugly tears. Sobbed – right there at the gate. Everyone around me stared like I was some crazy woman. I wasn’t even embarrassed – I knew there was a grandma somewhere in that crowd that knew exactly how I was feeling.
Here’s how some of our readers are coping with Teary Goodbyes:
Sherry K. (Alberta, Canada) – “I try to make goodbyes about celebrating the great moments we have had together and not about me missing them. I have found there is never enough time with my grandbabies, but I try to focus on having gratitude and not a time deficit. If I have cuddled them, read stories together, played with them directing the playing, sung songs and laughed, I trust that those connections will be enough.”
Thanks Sherry! Sherry and I go waaaaaaayyyy back to our very first babies when we were neighbors and both brand new moms. Now she has 3 grands and one more on the way! I’m not surprised that she has such a positive attitude toward Teary Goodbyes.
Valora O. (Minnesota) – “Since all 9 of ours live in the area now, the teary goodbyes are our babies not wanting to go home after so much fun at the farm lol! Reassuring them that they can come back takes some extra hugs and kisses. But its, well worth the time. I’m grateful they don’t live so far away anymore.”
Thanks Val! I sure do believe those sweet “grand blessings” (as she loves to call them) are sad to leave her farm. Val was one of my first friends in Minnesota so we go waaaaayyyy back as well. Our children were/are very similar ages and their family was so kind and welcoming to ours when we moved here.
Martha L. (Minnesota) Goodbyes are especially hard when I don’t know when I will see them next. One idea I did for a while was make special bags for them to open in the car or plane. It would have things like coloring, a snack, sometimes a DVD, a book, etc. The kids loved them. I did it until they started asking for them the day they arrived–lost the joy. Now I only make them occasionally.
Thanks Martha! What a fun Grandma idea! Martha is my role model grandma and is winning the grandchildren count by quite a few!!