I absolutely loved being a mom to bunch of little boys. I didn’t work outside of the home when they were young so being a mom was My Job. I read books about it and watched what other moms did. We played a lot and we learned responsibility. We did everything together.
Lately, I’ve found myself comparing mothering to grandmothering, and thinking about how they are different. Being a mom has been a wonderful experience for me. However I’ve even been known to (half)joke that I might just love my littles more than my own children. I absolutely adore my children. They are my life. Still, I’ve been surprised at the depth of my love for my littles.
This week I asked Go Grandma followers what surprised them the most about becoming a grandma. If you’re a grandma, then their answers probably won’t be a surprise to you. Here’s what a few of them had to say:
Lorri S., CANADA: Maybe I was surprised by how easy is was to be a granny….and to completely love that little human from the get go.
Pauline V., WI: How easy it is to fall in love again – with every new little one.
Martha L., MN: The incredible amount of love and joy you feel for each child–from the first and still continues. It is amazing.
Mary H., ID: It’s simply wonderful!
Mary H.: What a blessing each child is in their own special way.
Judy C., UT: I’m 3 weeks into this new grandma life and I didn’t realize my heart was capable of loving my new grandson as much if not more than my own children. BEST CLUB EVER!!!!
I’m not sure why life was designed in such a way that at just about the time you’ve exhausted your parenting energy, you approach the grandmothering years. It’s the best reward for years of worried late nights and parent teacher interviews.
Do you remember when you first held your newborn baby, you drew them close and smelled their sweet newborn smell? Do you remember how you were instantly filled with complete love and compassion for that child – like you would absolutely lay down your life for that child — yet you’ve only known them for a moment? Being a grandma is something like that only for me it’s more of a feeling of complete protection. I don’t wish to parent the littles at all. I just want to be in their presence and just watch. I could watch All.Day.Long. Literally, everything they do is a pleasure to observe.I’ve learned that love changes and becomes deeper as our roles expand and change. The love grows from one of depth and begins to include a love of breadth. It’s an intangible thing. It’s especially intangible when you add the love my child has for his own children now. It’s really the best miracle of love.
What surprised YOU about becoming a grandma?